part 2 Whose to blame?

When I first read this passage in part two I thought that his family was taking advantage of gregors income. However as I looked at the passage closer I began to consider the possibility that it is gregor needs to be helping them for his own sense of worth. It was interesting what he refered to as fine times, those were the times when his family were amazed when his family needed him when they were weak. When his family was better off  there was less glory there was less out pour of warm feeling. While this could be because the family had gotten used to mooching off him it could also be because he was sort patronizing them it could go both ways. If you think about it its something gregor would do he does rely on others happiness for his own sense of purpose like how he wants to send his sister to a conservatory, hes living thorugh her. While some may view gregor as caring self sacrificing and generous a sort of Christ like figure why is he an insect ? however I don’t think you can clearly say that either the family is selfish and mooching or gregor is denying his lack of purpose by patronizing his family. Were not really sure whose the needy one here, kaftka shrouds the truth. “his father had never said anything on the contrary and of course gregor had never asked.” Both parties could be blamed here his father didn’t lie but he didn’t tell the truth and gregor didn’t deny the truth but he didn’t question it . If kaftka wanted us to blame one over the other he would make either the father a liar or gregor a deniar. But I don’t think kaftka wants to really blame either of the parties because its not as simple as pointing a finger. I think he wants us to try to understand the complexities of their relationship and how they were all responsible and at the same time how their actions were understandable.

Im also wondering about the significance of the daughter and music why does gregor like this about her why did kaftka make her a musician and not lets say a prosective med school student? Music is something that requires passion it is an art and like most arts you have to struggle to survive its something that you may love very much but its not the easiest or most secure field to go into. I think it gives gregor hope that atleast he could give her the chance to live passionately and independently in a way he felt he could not do. He could do it but he doesn’t realize it because of either his need for purpose or his manipulative parents.